Is This All There Is?

Written By: Kim - Oct• 18•11

Three days a week, I take the commuter train of the living dead. Let’s just say we are pulling away from home before 6 am. And, yes, there is one more train before ours that leaves my hometown a little after 5 am, but I rarely make that train. The last stop puts us at Washington, DC’s Union Station at 6:57 am. Most of us spend the last few minutes pulling in to the station gearing up for our day ahead. Or at least hoping the caffeine will kick in soon.

Today, one of my train buddies, who has a great personality and sense of humor was shaking his head and yawning. I asked him what was up. He pondered: “Some days, I wonder. Is this all there is?” I chuckled and told him that he was having a mini mid-life crisis. And, that most of us do not work because we want to, we work because we have to in order to enjoy things such as a home, vacations, college tuition, etc. As we went our separate ways, I thought about what he said.

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We toil. We live. We survive. We love. We work. We learn. So what? Why are we doing this again? What drives us to enjoy life? I am not talking about simply going through the motions, but really living. Enjoying our family and friends; liking our career choices; finding our talent and passion outside of work. Making a difference somewhere to someone.

I don’t have the answer. I can just tell you to do something that makes you happy. If you hate your job and can’t leave, find an interest outside work. Discover one of your 10 talents. I have it on good authority from my Mom, who knew everything, that God gives us all 10 talents. It’s up to us to find them all. Volunteer — an organization somewhere needs someone just like you. Try a hobby. Hit the gym. Spend time with your friends. Start a book club, a poker night, bunco group or knitting club.

Do something to make yourself happy and discover there is more to life than we realize. Seize your day.

Has Social Media Left Us with Nothing to Say?

Written By: Kim - Sep• 15•11

For quite some time, I resisted creating a Facebook account. I was active on Twitter. I had 500+ connections on LinkedIn. I did not care to be on Facebook. But like everyone else (or so it seems) in the world, I caved and created an account. I told myself it was so I understood Facebook more now that my children were on it. I was convinced that I was expanding my social media experience to stay relevant in the job market. I said I wanted to increase my Klout score.

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I quickly connected with friends, colleagues, college and high school friends I long ago had forgotten. As I scoured the list of names I might be connected with, a flood of memories came over me. The familiar names had me wondering how, after over two decades, I could recall these people from high school. Since I have not made it back to any high school reunions, I wondered how everyone was and what those of us who did or did not get along would think of each other as adults.

Now, I find myself immersed in everyone’s daily diary. Whatever it going on with each of us, we post. This includes happy or sad events and funny or frustrating moments. We watch each other’s children grow up. We have discussions over purchasing a power blender, planting a vegetable garden or showing off a new pair of shoes. We post photo albums of amazing trips, observations or just plain funny events. And then none of us can let anyone else have the last word, so we keep getting notifications of someone responding to our post or someone else’s. I too am guilty of this.

I majored in journalism and public relations in college and admit I am a news junkie. A professor told me I was the social butterfly of the journalism department. I always want to know what is happening. Before Facebook, most people classified this as nosiness. Now it’s called status.

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This really didn’t bother me until I was on a conference call with two colleagues I serve with on a volunteer basis. As we waited for others to join, I asked them what was going on.

Then I realized and commented that because we were all connected on Facebook, we already knew what was going on. We really had little to talk about. Our normal small talk was met with uncomfortable silence.

As we continue to see each other check in, post pictures, discuss the latest headline or make some observation, let’s remember to hold something back. Face-to-face interaction still matters. Keeping something private to discuss later will serve us all well.

I guess this means my blog will be quiet for a little while. Maybe.