When A Friend Knocks

Written By: Kim - Jan• 11•12

I have a confession to make. I sort of suck at being a good friend. Sure, I will chit chat with you when we run in to each other at the store or post something on your Facebook page. But, I am horrible at staying in touch. Simply picking up the phone is a monumental task.

It’s not that I don’t like you. But, I know that you, like me, have a busy life. Whether it’s working outside the home, volunteering, commuting or running your child to swim practice, you, like me, are on the go. I hate the thought of intruding on, what I know, is already a busy schedule. And, I figure if you really want to find out how I am doing, you will call. Well, that is a two-way street sister, which I realized after an honest and heated exchange with a friend of mine.

©Mike Howard 2011

If we haven’t spoken in a while, I feel awkward just “calling to say hi.” But, I realized that this is exactly what I should be doing. I wasn’t holding up my end of the relationship. I wasn’t really putting myself out there by reaching out to keep up.

So, my 2012 New Year’s Resolution is to try and be a better friend. I hope you won’t be alarmed if I just burst in on your day with a phone call. It’s just my way of keeping our friendship going.

So, if you don’t answer your phone, I will come knocking. I know where you live.

Is This All There Is?

Written By: Kim - Oct• 18•11

Three days a week, I take the commuter train of the living dead. Let’s just say we are pulling away from home before 6 am. And, yes, there is one more train before ours that leaves my hometown a little after 5 am, but I rarely make that train. The last stop puts us at Washington, DC’s Union Station at 6:57 am. Most of us spend the last few minutes pulling in to the station gearing up for our day ahead. Or at least hoping the caffeine will kick in soon.

Today, one of my train buddies, who has a great personality and sense of humor was shaking his head and yawning. I asked him what was up. He pondered: “Some days, I wonder. Is this all there is?” I chuckled and told him that he was having a mini mid-life crisis. And, that most of us do not work because we want to, we work because we have to in order to enjoy things such as a home, vacations, college tuition, etc. As we went our separate ways, I thought about what he said.

Praiano, Almalfi Coast, Italy rainbow ©God. Photo ©Mike Howard.

We toil. We live. We survive. We love. We work. We learn. So what? Why are we doing this again? What drives us to enjoy life? I am not talking about simply going through the motions, but really living. Enjoying our family and friends; liking our career choices; finding our talent and passion outside of work. Making a difference somewhere to someone.

I don’t have the answer. I can just tell you to do something that makes you happy. If you hate your job and can’t leave, find an interest outside work. Discover one of your 10 talents. I have it on good authority from my Mom, who knew everything, that God gives us all 10 talents. It’s up to us to find them all. Volunteer — an organization somewhere needs someone just like you. Try a hobby. Hit the gym. Spend time with your friends. Start a book club, a poker night, bunco group or knitting club.

Do something to make yourself happy and discover there is more to life than we realize. Seize your day.